Booty call not bae, how to tell the difference...

Booty call not bae, how to tell the difference... 

We ladies will often find ourselves getting mixed signs from a partner and wondering if the relationship is real and heading somewhere or just a booty call for the night. Some are lucky not to have gone through this but majority can relate. So ladies are you his potential girlfriend or just hook-up buddy?

Text Ninja

The only mode of communication between the two of you is late night texting. If he can text you at 2 am but can’t text you at 2.00 p.m, don’t text him at all. The only time calls are acceptable is when he happens to pass by your house and he thinks he can get some or you are going to his house and miss a turn.  The texts are short, erotic, and never go to details beyond what he is going to do to you the next time he sees you or “ what are you wearing sexy?”. Make a mistake of Mrng babeing him and you will sadly watch as your text goes answered, and worse more, ignored. Thanks to Whatsapp!

Lazy excuses to leave

A guy will always want to hang around after the deed if a lady matters to him. However, if you are the BC, he will not be worried losing you and will give stupid reasons to leave once his needs have been met.

You feel sad and lonely after seeing him

Seeing your boo should leave you feeling happy, secure and safe. After seeing your boyfriend, all you feel is emptiness and sadness, normally it’s not about him but more of a red flag that you are not getting what you need from the relationship.

His body language

You meet up, of course in your house; he can’t seem to get his hands and eyes off you. He compliments you on how great your obese body looks, he seems very interested in your once boring stories, and at this point he is your biggest fan. Kamami!! After the deed, a simple hug will be just five fingers pressed against your back but the words “see you next time” will clearly be said.

Bar Dates

Finally he is taking you out on a date. You spend all your savings on an overpriced dress and heels, in your mind it’s the Kimye sort of date. Bae picks you up at 12a.m, quick rush to the bar, later to your apartment, deed hurriedly done and a swift exit in a cab.

PDA?

When in a relationship, you go out and do uncomfortable displays of affection for other people to ogle. Your boyfriend will never do that; people should not know you are together.

I’ve met his friends

Yes, the ones with booty calls too. If you are a temporary hook up, he will not be interested in showing you off to his friends because guys don’t like questions like, “what happened to her?” 

Social Media existence

If it has been going on for some months, your presence should be evident in his social media, well, not displaying your relationship all over but somehow, there should be a hint. If you are a booty call, you’ll look as irrelevant as all his other friends.

Birthdays goes unnoticed

You tell him your birthday one day prior and he is still asking you why there are gift wrappers in your living room when he comes over to do the deed later in the night. He will remember everything about you if he likes you.

Talking about other women

He keeps talking about other women and name dropping when with you, he may not be dating them but clearly, he is not dating you too.

Keep your dreams and goals to yourself

A man genuinely interested in you will be keen to listen as you talk about anything, anytime. But a guy who sighs every time you talk is disinterested in you and just doesn’t have the good manners to hide it.

That’s it ladies, run girl run, you will never be the woman he wants to take home to his mother.

Love,

Ann.